The diasporic experience is oen shaped by war, repression and displacement, marked by grief, anger
and despair, as much as stories of hope, desires, dreams and happiness. It is crucial to create a space for
emotions in advocacy to harness them for mobilising others for our causes and to make our individual
and collective engagements more sustainable.
Diaspora advocacy oen aims at changing deeply entrenched structures of injustices, be it to ght
corruption, repression, or other forms of violence in the country of origin, or racism, exclusion and
discrimination in the context of residence. Anger can be a powerful emotion that motivates us to act on
our sense of injustice or concern. At the same time, it can be highly frustrating once we realise that we can
do little (especially from abroad) to tackle structural injustices, which may turn anger into a destructive
force. Therefore, anger interacts with self-eicacy - the belief that one’s action could inuence the
political process and contribute to social change. The question then becomes, how can we channel our
anger toward positive outcomes, to make sure that we act - rather than react - and that we have control
over our actions, rather than being controlled by a challenging environment.
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Anger is a universal emotion that all human beings feel. However, cognitive behaviour theorists
argue that anger is a secondary emotion, and there is oen a more vulnerable emotion
underneath. It can be fear, it can be feeling disrespected, or it can be about feeling lonely in your
eorts. Feeling anger is normal, and it can be helpful to be angry in certain situations. However,
knowing what’s underneath that anger is key in terms of mental health and in terms of figuring
out what you need so that you choose your behaviours wisely.
Thought-Feelings-Behaviours (TFB) Cycle
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Another idea proposed by cognitive behaviour theorists is that our thoughts determine our feelings,
which, in turn, determine our behaviour . If, for example, we struggle to stay motivated, we may start
thinking that we are not successful advocates. This may lead to a negative feeling, of, for example, feeling
worthless. That feeling may in turn determine the way we behave. If we feel worthless, we are inclined
to think that our contributions are not necessary, thus, we make no progress towards our goals. Our
behaviours, however, have consequences. The negative consequences of not making any progress will in
turn create new negative thoughts. For example, one may begin to think “in addition to being a failure at
work, I’m not even a good partner/parent”, which will then feed into new negative feelings. While failing at
work and being a good partner has nothing to do with one another, human thinking tends to lump them
together because we tend to relate dierent issues. As a result, the TFB cycle becomes a vicious cycle of
negativity. Then, how can we break out of this cycle? While we cannot change the way we feel, we may
have control over our thoughts. Research has shown that as human beings, we are most successful in
changing the way we think. It is therefore important to distinguish thoughts from feelings to gure out
what we need to focus on changing.
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44 “Fostering Wellness: Transforming Stress & Trauma through Self-Care and Resilience”, session by Dr. Heidi Kar, Rotary Peace Fellowship Program,
Chulalongkorn University. August 2022.
45 ibid.
46 To distinguish thoughts and feelings, it may be helpful to check out the different ways emotions manifest themselves, so that we better judge what is our
emotion and what is our thought. The vocabulary of emotions developed by Tom Drummond (2021) may be a helpful tool: https://tomdrummond.com/wp-content/
uploads/2019/11/Emotion-Feelings.pdf
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